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Thursday, June 19, 2025

I Need Romance (In Need of Romance) (2011 - 13)

 


The I Need Romance series are a simultaneously fascinating and frustrating look at the different dating philosophies of women in their thirties. The first two series follow the same formula – three females friends try to navigate dating in their thirties, which leads to surprising results. I Need Romance is a much different beast than the other K-dramas that I have reviewed on this blog – it was made with an adult audience in mind (specifically women in their thirties) and features frank discussions on sex and steamier love scenes (at least by South Korean standards) – the show was clearly inspired by Sex and the City.  The biggest hurdle the series has to overcome is, unfortunately, the characters themselves – these are some of the most self-absorbed people you will ever meet. They are the kind of people who begin a sentence with, “I think” and “I want”, but rarely consider the feelings of person they are talking to. At least in I Need Romance 2012, the main character, Yeol-mae, acknowledges this as a character flaw and works to improve on her personality. This is an instance of where I like the actors far more than the characters they portray – Cho Yeo-jong (the star of the first series) and Jung Yu-mi (the star of the second series) both have appealing screen presences and really sell the material they have been given.

However, as I mentioned before, I am not the demographic that this series was targeting, and it is more than likely that women in their thirties will have a significantly different (and more favorable) reaction to the series. In fact, if you want to read a woman’s perspective, I recommend you check out Dramabeans reviews of the series – her reviews are incredibly thorough with a lot of interesting insights. The website has been incredibly helpful to me when I need to refresh my memory.  The first two series are not only connected by themes but characters as well (Tae-woo, a minor character in series one, has a more prominent role in I Need Romance 2012, while the juvenile leads of series one, Hyun-joo and her fiancé Deok-soo briefly appear in I Need Romance 2012. Also, the lead male character of the first series, film director Sung-soo, is referenced multiple times throughout the second series).  I Need Romance 3, despite sharing similar themes and plot points, often feels like an entirely different beast – it may be the only entry in the series that gives its main protagonist, Shin Joo-yeon, a satisfying character arc. It could be argued that the female protagonists in the first two series, In Young and Yeol-mae, actually regress by the series end – they are in the same place they were at the beginning of the series.

In the first two series, the three female characters all have found successful careers – in season one, In Young is the concierge manager at the posh hotel; Seo-yeon is the editor of a lifestyle magazine and also models on the side; and Hyun-joo is a lawyer.  In season two, Yeol-mae is a music director (she produces music for movies) and composer; Jae-kyung is a shoe designer who is married to a popular news anchor; and Ji-hee (the most likable of the six women I have listed) is the vice manager at a popular movie theatre. 

In Young and Yeol-mae have been involved with the same man for over a decade – In Young has dated the film director, Sung-soo, for ten years and has known him since middle school, and Yeol-mae has had an on and off relationship with Seok-hyun for twelve years and has known him her entire life (they are even next door neighbors – and their houses are connected by an outdoor extension).  In Young and Sung-soo’s relationship comes to an abrupt after he cheats on her with the young actress, Yoon Kang-hee, who is the star of his upcoming movie.

When I Need Romance 2012 begins – Yeol-mae and Seok-hyun called it quits three years ago but have remained friends. It is revealed that their last break up was incredibly painful – the two of them got into violent argument in a marketplace, which resulted a trip to a jail. However, Yeol-mae is still attracted to Seok-hyun and, more importantly, is incredibly horny. She suggests to Yeol-mae that they do the whole “friends with benefits” things until they start dating another person. Seok-hyun agrees, as he has no intention of being in a full-time relationship with Yeol-mae (though, it is later revealed there is a specific reason why he keeps pushing her way. Hint: it is your typical “noble idiocy” that plagues so many K-dramas).  At first, things are all peachy keen – Yeol-mae’s sexual desires are being fulfilled and Seok-hyun likes the “no strings attached” part. However, Yeol-mae doesn’t just want to be sex partners with Seok-hyun, she wants to get back together with him permanently, and he tells her in no uncertain terms that this isn’t going to happen.  She is, naturally, heart broken by his rejection and spends the next few days in complete stupor.

After In Young and Sung-soo break up, In Young has a total break down – in fact, she begins to harass and stalk Sung-soo – she calls him at bedtime for a week straight and then sneaks into his apartment so she can scold him in person. She can’t believe he is able to fall asleep with such relative ease after their breakup. Even though Sung-soo has done her dirty, she can’t stop thinking about him; this is entirely believable – the two of them have dated each other for over a decade, and have known each other since middle school, he has been her security blanket for all these years and the idea of not having him around is scary one. She doesn’t know who she is without Sung-soo – it’s like a part of her has died. Normally, this would be a golden opportunity for our heroine to do some soul searching and figure out what she truly wants in life, but instead she immediately jumps into another relationship with Bae Sung-hyun, who is the grandson of the hotels CEO and In Young’s junior by five years (this the only example of accurate casting in the entire series. As the actor Choi Jin-hyuk was, indeed, five years younger than Cho Yeo-jong).  This is a trope that all three series have in common – the three female protagonists become romantically involved with a younger man. The other trope is that the other man in their life is someone they have known since childhood. 



When Yeo-jong first met Sung-hyun, she trained him to be a concierge. The two of them worked together for a year, and she had no idea who his real identity was. The two of them did exchange a kiss, but Yeo-jong viewed it as being done in the heat of the moment. It was nice while it lasted, but it was also something to forget about – at this point, she was still dating Sung-soo. Yeo-jong just wrote it off as her junior harboring a high school crush on her.  When Sung-hyun quit his concierge job, Yeo-jong was disappointed but she also moved on with her life. 

 Her two best friends, Seo-yeon and Hyun-joo, have their own problems. Soo-yeon is not interested in long term relationships, she treats men like accessories - she will date a man for three months, dump him, and then move onto the next thing. She witnesses the pain that her two best friends have gone through in their long-term relationships and doesn’t want any of that. Her promiscuous behavior does, on occasion, create problems – she ends up having an affair with a married man, whose wife is pregnant, only to the find that the man’s wife is suing her for adultery.

 It feels like the series is going to do something interesting with this character -outside of the courthouse, the pregnant wife assaults Soo-yeon but begins to go into labor. Soo-yeon, still feeling bad about the affair, drives the woman to the hospital and acts as her guardian (she claims they are sisters). After the woman gives birth, Soo-yeon becomes attached to the baby boy – she looks after the baby while the mother is resting.  It is the only time in the series that Soo-yeon behaves in a truly selfless manner – she has found something greater than herself. She is heart broken when she is separated from the child – while the mother is grateful to Soo-yeon for looking after her, she still doesn’t anything to do with Soo-yeon. I initially believed that this brief narrative detour was set up for Soo-yeon becoming a mother in the final episode – it is written as a life changing moment for her. However, this minor subplot is nothing but filler – by the next episode is back to her old ways.  She is even more callous in her behavior – she starts seeing two men, Joon-yi (a photographer) and Alex (In Young’s co-worker and friend) at the same time.  In Young proves to be a rather terrible friend to Alex – she verbally objects to Soo-yeon dating him and is appalled when she finds out that Soo-yeon is cheating on him, but she doesn’t bother to give him a head’s up.  Alex is one of the two honest characters in the entire show – he is a straightforward person and is devoid of any agendas. He tries to understand Soo-yeon, but he can’t continue their relationship. Soo-yeon just coldly shrugs him off and regrets her actions after he has left Korea.  It is a credit to the actress, Choi Yeo-jin, that Soo-yeon comes off as sympathetic as opposed to being a cold-hearted temptress.



The third leg in the trifecta is Kang Hyun-joo – she is 33 years-old, an attorney and still a virgin. At the beginning of the series, she is engaged to Tae-woo, who doesn’t have any interest in sleeping with his future bride. Hyun-joo initially believes that Tae-woo is saving himself for marriage, but it turns out that the reason Tae-woo doesn’t make a move is because he doesn’t find her sexually desirable. On the day of their wedding, he leaves her at the altar. This devastates Hyun-joo, but she is determined to lose her virginity, and the man she chooses is Kim Deok-soo. The first time she met Deok-soo he was working for a small company called “Disposable Men” – they are hired to do specific tasks (clean, maintenance, etc.) and then be on their merry way.  Hyun-joo’s first interaction with Deok-soo is disastrous – she spills coffee all over his pants.  While she finds Deok-soo attractive, she is a disappointed that he is lacking in “book smarts.” She brings up novels she has read, but he has no idea what she is talking about.  When Tae-woo stands her up at the altar, she calls Deok-soo and asks him to stand in for her former fiancé’s place.  He agrees to go through with the marriage ceremony – Hyun-joo doesn’t register the marriage, so it technically (on a state level) doesn’t count. While she views Deok-soo as her intellectual inferior, he is the perfect one-night stand – all she has to do is seduce him.

 Deok-soo is the second genuinely honest character in the entire series – he has no hidden agenda and is very straightforward with Hyun-joo.  He is at the age where he wants to settle down, get married, and have a family, and sees Hyun-joo as a potential mate. He also owns a paddle ball club, which Hyun-joo finds embarrassing. The other thing Hyun-joo finds frustrating about Deok-soo is how content he is with his life – he is perfectly fine with owning a paddle ball club and being a pillar to the community. He is not interested in monetary gain – he just wants to make people happy. After Hyun-joo has successfully popped her cherry to Deok-soo, she tries to distance herself from him – to the point that she pays him to leave her alone. Her interprets that as her paying him for sex, loses his temper, and gives her a slap across the face. This will, undoubtedly, make western audiences uneasy – though, if the roles were reverses, there would be a lot of “Yes, Queen” cheers from the audience. Also, she deserved it! She is dismissive of Deok-soo’s feelings, uses him for her own agenda, discards him, and then is surprised that he is hurt. Deok-soo is a very lowkey character – he is not the kind of guy who has violent outbursts, but man, Hyun-joo really does a number one the poor guy.   



Hyun-joo’s mother tries to set her up on blind dates with prominent males – one of them is a lawyer and, like Hyun-joo, is extremely well read. It seems that she has found a suitable mate but, in true K-drama fashion, he is a total lech and forces himself on Hyun-joo.  Deok-soo just happens to be in the area and chases the slimeball away. I always find this type of writing contrived – Hyun-joo hooks up with a man who is too good to be true and, of course, he is a scum bucket.  It would have been interesting if he was a genuine good dude, who Hyun-joo doesn’t have any interest in (despite their compatibility).  The show Familiar Wife does this type of storyline to perfection. 

I have similar criticism of the resolution to In Young’s romance with Sung-hyun. The writers desperately want to get In Young back together with Sung-soo (despite his two-timing) and they paint themselves in the corner by making Sung-hyun the ideal mate for In Young (despite him being five years her junior).  The writers throw two monkey wrenches into their relationship. The first one being that Sung-hyun is in pre-arranged marriage with the daughter of a potential investor. Now, this is something that Sung-hyun could have explained to In Young (“My parents want me to marry this woman, but I am trying to break it up. Just bear with me for a little while”), instead she is blindsided by this revelation. His fiancée shows up at the hotel and unleashes her wrath on the employees.  Before his fiancée shows up, Sung-hyun says to In Young, “Trust me” and “pretend you don’t see or hear anything for the next week.” What the hell is that supposed to mean? How does he expect her to react when she sees his fiancée in person?  There are two things that annoy me in dramas – noble idiocy and a character’s inability to explain a problem that is easily resolved. Both of these tropes appear in all three I Need Romance series.  However, this only proves to be a minor speed bump in their relationship – Sung-hyun successfully breaks off the engagement and then proposes to In Young (who is initially ecstatic – even though they have only been dating for a few weeks).  



The second monkey wrench thrown into their romance proves to be fatal – Sung-hyun introduces In Young to his wealthy the parents and they agree to the marriage, but with that stipulation that Sung-hyun moves to United States, changes her name, and waits for Sung-hyun to join her (which would take about a year) after the scandal has died down. It’s no surprise that In Young can’t agree to this stipulation and she breaks up with Sung-hyun. This is a plot point that I just couldn’t buy – In Young’s and Sung-hyun’s relationship has survived all sorts of challenges, but when this inconvenience gets in their way, In Young immediately wants to end it all. There also the fact that Sung-hyun offers zero push back on his parents – he knows that demands are ridiculous but goes along with them, regardless. I don’t believe it! These two characters, as written in the previous episodes, would have just said, “Fuck the parents. Let’s get married without their blessing,” but, because the plot demands it, Sung-hyun turns into a quivering pile of jelly and really makes no effort to win back Sung-hyun. He resigns himself to the fact that their relationship is over. 

After having they have successfully disposed of Sung-hyun, this gives the writers the freedom to reunite In Young with Sung-soo (the two-timing dipshit).  Where do I begin with this?  It is interesting reading the comments section of I Need Romance recaps, because the fan reaction to In Young going back to Sung-soo is overwhelmingly negative.  Who can blame them?  Sung-soo is an extremely unlikable character – the writers try to give him a character arc where he sees the error of his ways, owns up to his mistakes, and tries to atone for his adultery, but it is to no avail.  Even if Sung-soo is a changed man, In Young is always going to have a lingering doubt about him. He is a film director who works with all sorts of young, attractive actress – the minute In Young sees a picture of Sung-soo with one of these starlets, she is going to assume the worst – that is one of the few constants of her character. It’s a tragic ending masquerading as a happy one. It is also incredible how quickly In Young gets over her breakup with Sung-hyun – the two of them were practically engaged and just weeks after the fact, she gets back together with Sung-soo.  Though, her relationship with Sung-hyun also escalated quickly – they only have been dating for, at best, a few months and she is already willing to marry the guy (despite knowing very little about him). 

 It is rare that I bring up the technical aspects of K-dramas – they are usually efficiently done that you don’t pay attention to the detail, but the editing in I Need Romance is extremely jarring at time – there will often a scene dialogue scene between two characters with the traditional shot/reverse shot set up, but then it cut to awkward two shot of the characters (shot from either a low angle or angle) and the color temperature doesn’t match – the scene will go from muted to colors to being overly saturated with color. An odd stylistic choice that all three series make is that a scene will often cut to a still shot of the character during a critical moment – it is incredible annoying (though, I Need Romance 3 dials it down significantly) and interrupts the flow of the scene. The first time this happened; I thought that the picture on television had frozen up.



I Need Romance 2012 often feels less like a follow up and more of a remake of the first series. It once again follows the lives of three female friends (Joo Yeol-mae, Woo Ji-hee, and Seon Jae-kyung) as they try to find love in their thirties. Yeol-mae gets caught up in a love triangle between Yeon Seok-hyun (a man who she has known here entire life and a screenwriter) and Shin Ji-hoon (a man two years her junior and the owner of a coffee shop).  Yeol-mae is a music producer (and composer) and lives next door to Seok-hyun (their mothers were best friends and after their fathers died, built the house two of them currently live in). Even though they live in separate houses, their two homes are connected with an extension, and they share the same living room.  Yeol-mae and Seok-hyun dated on and off for twelve years, and after their last painful break up, they decided to remain just friends.  The two of them have co-existed peacefully for three years, but Yeol-mae finds that she is still sexually around by Seok-hyun and suggests they go the whole “friends with benefits” route until they find a new partner.  At first, it feels like a win-win scenario – they both can satisfy their carnal desires without being bogged down by the pressure of being in a full-time. After all, their previous attempts at being a couple ended in disaster, because Seok-hyun often acted cold towards Yeol-mae (especially when writing) and Yeol-mae has a very short temper and would often berate Seok-hyun for not opening up to her. The two of them were always a trainwreck waiting to happen, so “friends with benefits” seems like a more ideal solution for them.



However, against her better judgment, Yeol-mae realizes that she still loves Seok-hyun and wants to get back together with him. Seok-hyun adamantly shoots this idea down (his reasoning proves to be lame, but more on that later) and his refusal stuns Yeol-mae. It doesn’t destroy their friendship, but it does make things awkward between the two of them.  This also is where I need to point out that both of the actors (Jung Yu-mi and Lee Jin-wook) are excellent and do wonders with the material that is given to them.  It is easy to relate to Yeol-mae’s increasing frustration with Seok-hyun and his unwillingness to confide in her. It’s not surprising that she finds him to be a cold person, because he constantly just brushes off her concerns. The last time they broke up was over marriage – Yeol-mae wanted to get married while Seok-hyun shot down the idea.  This is the trope of many K-dramas – the stoic male lead who is hesitant to reveal his true feelings for the lead female. These are plots that could usually be resolved if the male character just uttered three words “I Love You,” but usually spends most of the series either second guessing himself or coming up with nonsensical reasons why he can’t be with the lead woman.  The better K-dramas tend to avoid this trope, or if it is incorporated into the storyline, it is done so in a believable manner.  Unfortunately, I Need Romance 2012 is not one of the better K-dramas and Seok-hyun’s behavior becomes increasingly infuriating as the show progresses – to the point that I started to lose interest in the main storyline – this is an instance where I like the side characters more than the leads.

After Seok-hyun’s rejection, it is not surprising that Yeol-mae ends up in the arms of another man – in this case, it is Shin Ji-hoon. The two of them bond over vinyls (Ji-hoon owns a vinyl that Yeol-mae has been looking for) and coffee (he taught a coffee making class and Yeol-mae was one of his students). It also turns out that Ji-hoon attended a music class that was taught by Yeol-mae and has harbored a crush on her ever since.  The two of them hit it off and pretty soon Yeol-mae is spending the night at Ji-hoon’s house. At first, Seok-hyun tries to be supportive of their relationship – he even invites Ji-hoon over for a cookout, but eventually his more jealous nature begins to take over.  Both Seok-hyun and Yeol-mae have a habit of taking each other for granted, they just assume the other one will always be there regardless of their relationship status. When it looks like Seok-hyun might permanently lose Yeol-mae to Ji-hoon, he freaks out.  Even though Ji-hoon and Yeol-mae have just started, he is already talking about marriage and wants her to meet his parents to get their approval. Seok-hyun finally confesses his feelings for Yeol-mae, but she doesn’t believe him.  He believes that the window on their relationship has been closed forever and does the correct thing, by putting his house up for sale.  At this point, after making a public spectacle of himself, he realizes that he will be content with Yeol-mae being with Ji-hoon, as long as she is happy.



The question you ask: If Seok-hyun loves Yeol-mae then why did he initially reject her proposal that they get back together?  The answer: (oh boy) It turns out that his father and sister died of a disease that is hereditary and there is a 50/50 chance that he might develop it, as well. It turns out he loves Yeol-mae so much to allow her to suffer as he slowly disintegrates in front of her eyes.  He is making the noble sacrifice.  Where do I even begin with this?  The thing that irks me about the noble sacrifice in K-dramas is that deprives the lead female of making her own decision.  In Yeol-mae’s case, she has an unconditional love for Seok-hyun, but he just assumes she wants a more convenient relationship. If he gets sick, that could make things inconvenient for her, and he doesn’t know if she could endure it. UGH! He should tell her the facts and then allow her to make up her own mind. It doesn’t occur to him how devastating it would be for Yeol-mae to learn, after the fact, that her boyfriend died of a disease and that was the reason he broke it off with her. The main thought that will be going through her head will be, “If only I could have been there for him in his final days.” Also, he breaks it off with Yeol-mae over a hypothetical – “I might get this fatal disease.”  That’s akin to not going to work, because you might get into a car accident. What’s even odd is that this disease subplot is totally unnecessary, because the writers already provided Seok-hyun a legitimate reason for not wanting to get back together with Yeol-mae.  The two of them have been an on and off for over a decade, and their last break up was especially a painful one (that ended with them in the police station – they were in a marketplace and began to throw produce at one another. Their fight escalated so quickly that Seok-hyun even smashed a few of the vending carts).  After that last break up, it makes sense that Seok-hyun would be hesitant in wanting to get back together with Yeol-mae. They often bring out the worst in one another.

I also found it impossible to get involved with the Yeol-mae/Ji-hoon romance, because I knew it was ill fated.  It was akin to the Shi-won/Tae-woong romance in Reply 1997, where the writers laughably tried to sell us on the idea that those two might end up together – just like Shi-won and Yoon-je were destined to be together, the same applies to Yeol-mae and Seok-hyun. The two characters have known each other since childhood, have dated and broken up multiple times, and always returned to each other in the end. Ji-hoon is a likable guy, but he is nothing more than a rebound romance for Yeol-mae. When Yeol-mae learns about the death of Seok-hyun’s sister and his fear of inheriting that lethal disease from his father, she immediately goes back to him. Seok-hyun, to his credit, tries to do the noble thing by telling her to go back to Ji-hoon. His noble stupidity is annoying, but it is also understandable in this case.  He realizes how his irrational behavior has hurt Yeol-mae and believes the best thing he can do is remove him from her life.

I Need Romance 2012 also features another one of my least favorite K-drama tropes – the time jump. Seok-hyun decides to move out of his house and puts it up for sale and decides to spend his last day with Yeol-mae by going on a drive with her. He then tells Yeol-mae she should go back to Ji-hoon and that he will be moving out so she can move on with her life. She doesn’t respond well to either of these things and storms off in a rage and decides she is going to walk home. This leads to another absurd moment in the series – Yeol-mae walks cross country, by herself, for a week. She discards her phone so no one can get a hold of her, but it never occurs to Seok-hyun or Ji-hoon to notify the police about her disappearance. When she returns home, Seok-hyun has moved out (but he still hasn’t sold his house). Flash forward to one year later – Seok-hyun has completely fallen off the map (though his house still hasn’t sold) and Yeol-mae is still single (which is probably a good idea).  She feels guilty about breaking up with Ji-hoon, but she is convinced that Seok-hyun is her destiny. Also, one should never feel too bad about breaking off a relationship, especially if your heart wasn’t in it to begin with.  Ji-hoon, to his credit, doesn’t bear her any ill will and moves on with his life. Seok-hyun lives in a cabin that is located in the middle of nowhere and, somehow, Yeol-mae finds him. The two of them reconcile and officially are, once again, a couple – he even proposes to her this time around. It needs to be restated, both Jung Yu-mi and Lee Jin-wook are terrific actors (he is especially good in the time travel thriller, Nine) and have a great chemistry together, but the Seok-hyun/ Yeol-mae relationship gets very tiresome. Hell, though I like Lee Jin-wook’s performance – there was actually point where felt that Yeol-mae might be better off with Ji-hoon (despite the non-existent chemistry). It is difficult watching two characters treat each other so poorly. Ji-hoon is a laid-back guy and, to be honest, is too good for Yeol-mae. I initially believed Ji-hoon would hook up with Seok-hyun’s cute co-writer, Kang Na-hyun.



The character of Kang Na-hyun is a peculiar one – Seok-hyun is adapting a screenplay that was written by her, and she is less than thrilled by the changes he has made to her script (at the studio’s behest). The two of them have a heated argument that ends with Seok-hyun kicking her out of his house. However, after he has had time to cool down, he approaches Na-hyun and asks her to help him with the screenplay. She ends up moving into Seok-hyun’s house, much to the annoyance of Yeol-mae. Even though Na-hyun is interested in Seok-hyun, he doesn’t return her feelings and only views her as a business partner. Though, the main reason he doesn’t make a move on her is because of their age difference (which isn’t all that extreme – she is 25 and he is 33).  Plus, he still is in love with Yeol-mae, even though he won’t admit it.  It is odd that it never occurs to him to date Na-hyun after Yeol-mae begins dating Ji-hoon.  But again – Na-hyun is really too good for Seok-hyun. She should have ended up Ji-hoon.

The storylines involving Yeol-mae’s two female friends are more compelling. Seon Jae-kyung is a shoe designer, who is married to a popular news anchor, Lee Jang-woo. However, their marriage is one of convenience – Jae-hyung uses him to hook her up with potential investors. Neither of them is faithful to each other – Jang-woo hooks up with various woman, while Jae-hyung is having an affair with Han Jung-min, her business partner and first love (who she broke up with so she could marry Jang-woo).  Jae-hyung’s plan is to divorce Jang-woo and reveal all of his infidelities to the press, but he beats her to the punch. He announces his divorce from Jae-hyung and sic's his journalist buddies on Jae-hyung, effectively turning her into public enemy number one.  He effectively plays the role of the wronged husband – he publicly cries about their breakup but wishes his ex the best of luck. The public can’t believe Jae-hyung would cheat on such a decent huma being and they brand her a harlot. This leads to huge boycott of her shoe business and all of her employees end up quitting, so they won’t be dragged through the mud with her – only Jung-min remains by her side. Eventually, the controversy dies down and Jae-hyung can get back to her life and restart her business.  Jang-woo’s credibility takes a huge hit when he is busted for illegal gambling. This storyline isn’t anything spectacular, but it didn’t annoy me as much as the main storyline.  Again, the performances are excellent.



The relationship I found myself rooting for the most was one between Ji-hee and Tae-woo. One of the more pleasant surprises of I Need Romance 2012 is that it gives a redemption arc to Tae-woo – the man who wronged Hyun-joo in the first series.  When the series begins, Ji-hee is dating a doctor but is less than satisfied with her sex life – he just doesn’t turn her on in the bedroom. She tries to bring this up him in the nicest way possible but can never find the right opportunity to talk to him about it. However, before she can bring it up, he beats her to the punch and publicly complains about how she is a dead fish in the sack. Their conversation is overheard by Tae-woo, who just happens to be sitting on the bench next to him. He is listening to headphones, but he hears everything. He is visibly appalled by the things the doctor is saying to Ji-hee.  He even takes the time to offer Ji-hee some words of encouragement – he is convinced they will never see each other again, so he figures, “why the hell not?”  

However, the two of them keep bumping into one another – to the point that Ji-hee suspects that Tae-woo might be stalking her (it is completely unintentional). The movie theatre that Ji-hee works at is getting a new manager and it turns out to be none other than Tae-woo.  At first, things are incredibly awkward between the two of them – it makes Ji-hee uncomfortable that he knows a lot about her private life. It is also revealed that Ji-hee used to date Deok-soo (who is currently engaged to Tae-woo’s ex-fiancée, Hyun-joo). They even run into Hyun-joo and Deok-soo at a restaurant. 

As Ji-hee gets to know Tae-woo better, she realizes that they two of them have a lot in common and that he is a man that she can depend on. Tae-woo’s problem is that he is not the most romantic of men – he very lowkey asks Ji-hee to marry him and it annoys her – she wants to be swept off her and he just casually brings it up while they are eating at a restaurant. There is also a sense that Tae-woo doesn’t want to repeat the mistakes of the past – he still feels guilty over the way he treated Hyun-joo and doesn’t want to disappoint Ji-hee. Mercifully, he avoids falling into the noble stupidity trap – he just wants to make sure Ji-hee is on the same page as him before he commits to her. The two of them are easily the most likable of three main couples – neither of them has an agenda they wish to pursue, they just want a straightforward relationship.  Despite their minor arguments, they also accept each other’s idiosyncrasies.  Tae-woo is not the most obvious of suitors, but he is a perfect match for Ji-hee.




 I Need Romance 2012 has its issues, but it is step above the first series. The showrunners clearly learned their lesson from the first series and fixed a lot of the mistakes that hurt the first series. As annoying as the main characters can be in the second series, they didn’t piss me off as much as the main characters in the first series.  I genuinely was pissed when In Young got back together with Sung-soo, while Yeol-mae getting back together with Seok-hyun doesn’t bother me as much. The show does a good job of establishing that the two of them are destined to be together – it just takes them forever to realize it.



I Need Romance 3 is the best series out of the three – it has terrific leads in Kim So-yeon and Sung Joon, and much more satisfying character arc for its female lead. In real life, Kim So-yeon is ten years older than her leading man, Sung Joon, but there is no denying the two of them have incredible chemistry together.  The series also acknowledges this age disparity – in the context of the show, Shin Joo-yeon is six years older than her would be suitor, Joo Wan. Just like in the first two series, Joo-yeon and Joo Wan share a long history with each other – Joo-wan was actually raised by Joo-yeon and her mother until the age of nine. His mother was preoccupied with her business and hired Joo-yeon and her mother to look after her son. At the age of nine, Joo-wan and his mother moved to the States, and he was separated from his childhood crush. It is also interesting how Joo-won and Jo-yeon remember this time of their lives – to Joo-wan, it was the best time of his life. He has fond memories of Joo-yeon and the time they spent together. To Joo-yeon, she is reminded of a difficult time in her life – she lived in poverty with her mom and, despite being a child, she was often tasked with looking after Joo-wan. It has worn her out both mentally and physically.



 Seventeen years later, Joo-wan is back in his career – he is now a popular DJ and composer, and goes by the stage name, Allen Joo.  Joo-yeon’s mother offered to let Joo-wan stay at the family house during his stay in South Korea, but Joo-yeon vehemently opposes this. When Joo-wan calls her on the phone, she tells him she doesn’t want him crowding her space and to look for another place to stay.  She tells Joo-wan that she has a boyfriend and the sound of their lovemaking would make Joo-wan uncomfortable.

 Joo-yeon is the fashion marketing director at a home shopping channel – she is in charge of the new brands department. The best way to define Joo-yeon is that she surrounds herself with colleague but there is not a single person she can call “friend” – her team at work often talk behind her back and she, in turn, doesn’t feel comfortable when they talk about their personal lives.  She is a cold and distant person and avoids getting close to people. When her boyfriend breaks up with her (after she is expecting a proposal), she just shrugs it off and moves on with her life. She has had her heart broken so many that she has become desensitized to the breakup process.  In first two series of I Need Romance, the female lead had two best friends she could lean on, but in I Need Romance 3, Joo-yeon is on her own. When Joo-yeon was in college, her best friend, Oh Se-ryung, stole her boyfriend away from her. Oh Se-ryung has grown up to be a famous stylist and, more importantly, is the ex-girlfriend of Joo-yeon’s boss/mentor, Kang Tae-yoon. She is also close friends with Joo-wan (talk about a small world).  Joo-yeon and Joo-wan are reunited at a club, where he is DJing under his stage name, so Joo-yeon has no idea that Allen Joo is actually the boy she used to babysit. Joo-yeon gets into a verbal spat with Oh Se-ryung, and when Joo-wan finds out that this cold woman is Joo-yeon, he can’t believe how much she has changed.  The Joo-yeon he remembers was a warm and giving person, while this woman standing in front of him is a cold-hearted bitch. He is determined to change her back into her former self (even though, what he perceived as her former self was an illusion).



 The two of them become romantically involved until Joo-yeon finds out Allen Joo’s real identity – he is the bratty kids she used to look after. She believes he was trying to make a fool out of her, but he insists his feelings for her were genuine.  Joo-wan eventually moves into Joo-yeon’s house (he lives in the attic) and, at first, the two of them are at odds with one another.  Even though, Joo-yeon was initially attracted to the grown-up Joo-wan, once she finds out his identity, she no longer views him as a man but as the child that gave her a difficult time. She constantly uses their six-year age difference against Joo-wan. To Joo-wan’s credit, he doesn’t pressure Joo-yeon into dating him – at first, he is okay with being her friend.  What Joo-yeon finds so jarring about Joo-wan is his honesty – she comes from a world of brown nosers and backstabbers that when she encounters a genuine person she doesn’t know how to react – there has got to be a catch. 

The more interesting aspects of I Need Romance 3 is the gender role reversal – normally, in K-dramas it is the female protagonist who has a positive influence on the jaded male lead – he begins the drama cold and distant, but by the end, thanks to the heroine’s undying love, he is a changed man. Here, it is the opposite – Joo-yeon starts off as a cold-hearted bitch who transforms into a more open, and caring, individual, and this achieved due to Joo-wans unwavering love and support.  At first, the changes he makes to her life are minor – when he moves into Joo-yeon’s house, Joo-wan begins cooking for her. We can tell, just by her reaction, that it has been a long time since Joo-yeon has enjoyed a home cooked meal – her diet consists mostly of take out and eating out. The only item she keeps in her refrigerator is pouches of Red Ginseng – it is usually what she has for breakfast. Joo-wan also gives her house a thorough cleaning – to the point where she doesn’t recognize it. He also has a gentle way of pointing out her flaws – he doesn’t scold her but just tells the areas she needs to improve on in her life. 

When Joo-yeon’s co-worker, Lee Min-jung, gets pregnant, she needs someone to air out her grievances and concerns, but Joo-yeon completely shuts her down.  In Joo-yeon’s defense, Min-jung was doing this in the workplace and she doesn’t have time to deal with her co-workers personal. Plus, she finds the exchange awkward and doesn’t know what to say. When she tells Joo-wan about this, he chides her a little bit and then tells her that Min-jung wasn’t looking for advice, she just needed someone to talk to. The next time Joo-yeon and Min-jung are working together, when Min-jung starts talking about the difficulties she is facing, Joo-yeon begins to ask her questions, and this results in the two of them forming a sisterly bond.

 It is also Joo-wan who points out that Joo-yeon has feelings for her boss, Kang Tae-yoon. She notices that whenever she is around Tae-yoon that her heart seems to beat at a faster pace, but she doesn’t know why it is. She has become so jaded with life that she doesn’t know her true feelings about people. Joo-wan has to spell it out for her – at first, she is in denial but eventually realizes that this is true.  In theory, Tae-yoon is the perfect mate for her – he is her senior, they work in the same industry, he is competent at his job, and he is a handsome man.  The two of them start dating and Joo-yeon can’t help being disappointed – while it is true that Tae-yoon is a professional when it’s come to his job, he is at a loss when it comes to romance and often has a hard time separating his personal life from his professional life. He is also jealous of the fact that Joo-wan lives with Joo-yeong (actually, this is understandable) and insists that Joo-yeong kick out Joo-wan. This is something she is reluctant to do, because she has become fond of Joo-wan.


 

She also begins to develop romantic feelings towards Joo-wan but is in total denial over this fact – he is six-years her junior, after all.  Joo-wan initially supportive of Joo-yeon and Tae-yoon’s relationship, but even he can’t overcome the jealousy bug. It also doesn’t help that Joo-yeon keeps sending him mixed signals – she keeps insisting they are nothing more than friends and tells Joo-wan to keep his distance, but she is also all touchy feely with Joo-wan. Eventually he makes an ultimatum to Joo-yeon – it is either Tae-yoon or him. Joo-yeon doesn’t give him a straightforward answer but scolds him for being rude to Tae-yoon.  Joo-wan interprets this as her choosing Tae-yoon and he moves out of her house. It is only after Joo-wan moves out that Joo-yeon fully realizes her true feelings toward him. To quote the hair metal band, Cinderella, “Don’t know what you got ‘til it’s gone.”  While Joo-wan does love Joo-yeon, he will not accept until she can say those three words, “I love you.” 



Oh Se-ryung is an interesting character in her own right – in most shows, she would be set up as the irredeemable villainess, who would try to seduce the lead male away from the heroine. In I Need Romance 3, Se-ryung is actually a decent woman who make one critical mistake in her life.  She doesn’t bear Joo-yeon any ill-well, though she doesn’t show any remorse for stealing Joo-yeon’s boyfriend in college.  She has grown up to be a successful influencer and the station wants to hire Oh Se-ryung to promote their latest clothing lines -this means that two rivals will be working next to one another.  Joo-yeon, to her credit, can separate her personal life from her business life and agrees that hiring Joo-yeon is a good business move.  Oh Se-ryung does bring in the viewers and sales go up because of her endorsement, much to Joo-yeon’s annoyance.  Oh Se-ryung is Tae-yoon’ s ex-girlfriend and even though they broke up over a year ago, she still has feelings for him. She is naturally livid when she finds out that Tae-yoon and Joo-yeon are dating. Joo-wan tries to play the role of peacemaker between the two of them, but Se-ryung’s jealously gets the better of her – she tries to sabotage Joo-yeon’s team by breaking her contract and signing a contract with another network. When the deal falls through, she desperately needs her job back at Joo-yeon’s network but also refuses to swallow her pride. Joo-yeon also needs Se-ryung to promote her brands but won’t be the one to extend the olive branch. It’s a scenario where the two of them need each other, but neither one wants to be the first to yield. Min-jung recognizes how ridiculous the entire situation is and gets on her knees and asks Se-ryung to come back. After the ice has been broken, Se-ryung and Joo-yeon talk it out and bury the hatchet.  The two of them realize they function significantly better as a team than as enemies. Se-ryung still holds onto the hope that she might get back together with Tae-yoon but she doesn’t allow it to dictate her existence.  If it happens, great. If not, oh well!



Min-jung is having a fling with Ahn Min-seok, who is also younger than her.  The two of them hook up at hotels and to keep it a secret, when she meets him, she uses the name of her male co-worker, Lee Woo-young. Things go awry when Min-seok moves into the apartment next door to her and she does her best to avoid him. This proves to be impossible, and he not only finds out their neighbors, but her real name as well. To further complicate things, she becomes pregnant, and he is the father.  Min-seok goes through an interesting arc – he offers to provide Min-jung with financial support but wants nothing to do with raising the child. He believes that he is not ready to be a father. However, he is genuinely concerned about Min-jung, most notably her diet. He is appalled by the amount of junk food she consumes and puts her on a healthier diet. He then buys parenting books for Min-jung, but he is the one who ends up reading them. He then buys a life-like baby doll (it cries, pees, and poops) that they can use as practice. By the end of the series, he is excited at the prospect of being a father.  Min-seok decides to go through with the pregnancy, because the doctor told her that this will be her last chance at being a mother. She is given the character arc that Seo-yeon should have had in the first series.   



The most irritating of the couples are Jung Hee-jae and Lee Woo-young, co-workers who work under Joo-yeon. At the beginning of the series, Hee-jae is already in a relationship, but she drives away her boyfriend with her cold treatment and nonstop scolding. She is obsessed with him taking the civil service than she is in being his girlfriend. When she catches him doing charity work, she gives him a dressing down and tells him she is tired of living on a budget. He breaks it off with her and, to further rub salt into the open wound, actually passed the civil service exam but kept it a secret for her.  Lee Woo-young is able to catch her on the rebound and the two of them begin dating, in secret. Though, they are really bad at keeping secrets and all of their co-workers figure it out early on. The resolution to this relationship is truly annoying – Hee-jae decides she wants to find herself and decides to travel around the world for the next year, expecting the poor bastard, Woo-young, to wait for her.  She also informs him in roundabout way – she sends a text about her plans to Joo-wan’s radio show, and he reads it on air, while Woo-young and Hee-jae are listening on the radio.  Woo-young is, understandably, pissed off by this! She couldn’t tell him in private but rather aired her grievances out publicly, albeit anonymously. He eventually gives in and even buys Hee-jae a camera and supplies for her trip. This annoys me because there were plenty of opportunities for Hee-jae to travel around the world – namely right after she broke up with her first boyfriend, but she waits until after she starts dating Woo-young to have this revelation. It also is unfair to Woo-young – while she is traveling around the world, he is expected to hold down the fort and wait for her. If the roles were reversed, there is no way Hee-jae would have allowed Woo-young to make the trip.  Also, why does she need a year to travel around the world? She could easily take a few months off to see the world and come back refreshed – in fact, Joo-yeon even suggests she take a month off instead of quitting her job. It is one of the main gripes I have about I Need Romance 3, especially when comparing Joo-yeon’s relationship with Joo-wan.



The I Need Romance series is a mixed bag – the cast is uniformly excellent, but the writing often leaves a lot to be desired. Though, as heavily flawed as the first two seasons are, they are never boring…..frustrating, but not boring. Each episode is roughly 45 minutes long, which is the perfect length – they are other K-dramas that often struggle to fill their 60+ minute run time, but in series one the show runners figured out the perfect length for each episode. I Need Romance 3 was my favorite out of the three, and that’s largely because of I actually cared about the lead female, Shin Jo-yeon. The leading ladies in the first two series, In Young and Yeol-mae, were a bit too self-centered for my taste, and the fact that both of them are back to square one at the ending of the series was a bit disappointing (though, at least Yeol-mae goes through a period of self-reflection). However, as I stated before, I am not the demographic that the series was targeting. If you are a fan of Sex and the City, then you will probably enjoy I Need Romance.


Credits

I Need Romance
Cast:  Cho Yeo-jeong (Sun Woo In Young), Kim Jeong Hoon (Kim Sung-soo), Choi Yeo-jin (Park Seo-yeon), Choi Song-hyeon (Kang Hyun-joo), Choi Jin-hyuk (Bae Sung-hyun), Ha Yeon-joo (Yoon Kang-hee), Kim Hyeong-min (Kim Deok-soo), Lee Kwan-hoon (Seo Joon-yi), Ricky Kim (Alex), Heo Tae-hee (Ki Tae-woo), Lee Da-hee (cameo).

Director: Lee Chang-han
Writer: Jung Hyung-jung
16 episodes ~ 45 minutes

I Need Romance 2012
Cast: Jung Yu-mi (Joo Yeol-mae), Lee Jin-wook (Yoon Seok-hyun), Kim Ji-seok (Shin Ji-hoon), Kim Ji-woo (Seon Jae-kyung), Kang Ye-sol (Woo Ji-hee), Kim Ye-won (Kang Na-hyun), Heo Tae-hee (Kim Tae-woo), In Gyo-jin (Han Jung-min), Gong Jung-hwan (Lee Jang-woo).

Directors: Lee Jung-hyo, Jang Young-woo.
Writer: Jung Hyun-jung
16 episodes ~ 45 minutes

I Need Romance 3
Cast: Sung Joon (Joo Wan), Kim So-yeon (Shin Joo-yeon), Namkoong Min (Kang Tae-yoon),
Wang Ji-won (Oh Se-ryung), Park Hyo-joo (Lee Min-jung), Yoon Seung-ah (Jung Hee-jae), Park Yu-hwan (Lee Woo-young), Yoo Ha-jun (Ahn Min-seok), Jung Woo-shik (Han Ji-seung), Chae Bin (teen Joo-yeon), Jung Yeon-seok (young Joo Wan), Alex Chu (PD Lee Jung-ho, Joo-yeon’s ex-boyfriend).

Director: Jang Young-woo
Writer: Jung Hyun-jung
16 episodes ~ 45 minutes.

Thursday, June 5, 2025

Battle of the Bulge (1965)



I spent Memorial Day by having a marathon of epic war movies – Exodus, Saving Private Ryan, A Bridge Too Far, and Battle of the Bulge. I don’t want to spend an entire post untangling Exodus (because it would devolve into me having a political debate with myself) and there has already been so much written about Saving Private Ryan that there is nothing I can add to the conversation – though, both Exodus and Saving Private Ryan are effective propaganda. Battle of the Bulge and A Bridge Too Far are cut from the same cloth – they are both all-star war epics about a specific World War II battle. A Bridge Too Far is an effective movie with memorable set pieces and first-rate performances from its star-studded cast. It details with Operation Market Garden – a failed Allied operation that was intended to end the war by Christmas of 1944. It is one of the rare World War II movies that doesn’t depict the Allies in an entirely glowing light. It is definitely worth a watch and infinitely better than the subject of today’s review, Battle of the Bulge.

Where do I even begin with this movie? It is a movie that plays so loosely with the facts that it was denounced by Dwight D. Eisenhower (former US president and the Supreme Allied Commander in Europe during WWII). The movie feels like it was rushed into production, which would explain the bad continuity, clumsy rear screen projection, and shoddy special effects. It is amazing that this movie was released by a major studio. The movie was clearly inspired by the success of the 1962 war epic, The Longest Day – which commemorated the D-Day invasion. The Longest Day started the trend of star-studded war epics – big named actors would show up on screen, say a couple of lines, and then disappear, or they would come to an untimely end.  However, despite some controversial casting (like the then 54-year-old John Wayne being cast as Lt. Col. Benjamin Vandervoort, who was 27 when the invasion took place), The Longest Day stuck close to the facts. It also provided a balanced look at the Normandy Invasion – it is shown from the American, British, French, and German perspective.  Like A Bridge Too Far, it was based on a novel by Cornelius Ryan and is an ensemble piece. The closest we get to a main character is Richard Beymer as the beleaguered Private Dutch Schultz, but even he is offscreen for a good chunk of the movie.

While Battle of the Bulge took a few of its cues from The Longest Day – most notably, the producers hired Ken Annakin, one of the directors on The Longest Day, to helm the project – it goes with a different narrative route. In Battle of the Bulge there are two distinct main characters – Lt. Col. Daniel Kiley (Henry Fonda), an Allied military intelligence officer, and Col. Hessler (Robert Shaw), A German tank commander. Henry Fonda was a great actor, but this role was clearly done for the paycheck as he sleepwalks his way through the scenery. Sadly, this would typify Fonda’s career throughout the late 1960s and 70s. Robert Shaw, as the cold-hearted Hessler, fares better despite the cartoonish script.

The glaring problem with the script is that Kiley, a military intelligence officer, is always in the middle of the action and even makes strategic decisions. Now, I will admit I am not that knowledgeable about the military, but it seems unlikely that an intelligence officer (especially a middle aged one) would be allowed on the front lines Yet, Kiley, by sheer coincidence, finds himself in the middle of the movie’s climatic battle and even saves the day by ordering soldiers to burn up the fuel depot so the Germans can’t get their hands on it.



Col. Hessler is a villain straight out of G.I. Joe – with his thick German accent, cold demeanor, and obsession with continuing the war, one could easily imagine him violently shaking his fist at the Joes after they once again thwarted his world domination plot.  It is also evident that Robert Shaw desperately wants to do something interesting with the character, but is hampered by the juvenile script – when Hessler learns that captured US soldiers were massacred at Malmedy, he is visibly appalled by this, but that it is the closest thing we get to a character arc – by then end of the movie, he reverts to being a war monger – he excitedly tells his aide, Conrad, that he doesn’t care about victory, he just wants the war to continue for as long as possible. The character of Conrad was the filmmakers attempt at extending an olive branch to the anti-war members of the audience – he becomes disillusioned towards the war as the movie progresses and is visibly horrified when Hessler goes on his war mongering rant. The final straw for Conrad is when Hessler boasts about sending Conrad’s two sons to fight in the war. Battle of the Bulge was made during the early days of the Vietnam War, and the anti-war sentiment was already beginning to form in 1965, so this was a case of the filmmakers wanting their cake and eating it too. If they could appeal to the Hawks and Doves, then it would be a win-win scenario – war is bad but look at these badass tanks!  I also have a similar problem with Saving Private Ryan – it is a pro-war sermon disguised as anti-war narrative. 



Actresses Barbare Werle and Pier Angeli are given prominent billing in the cast, but they only appear in one scene, and the sole function of the characters is to contrast the Nazis with the Americans. Werle plays the prostitute Elena, who is sent by the higher up as a parting gift to Hessler, but he rejects her advances – which the filmmakers depict as being abnormal. Sure, he is married man, but how could he reject a woman who is offering herself up? Well, it’s because his evil ideology has made him cold and sterile, and drained him of all sexual urges. He is just a machine. 

Compare this to the scene between Sgt. Guffy (Telly Savalas) and the pretty Lousie (Pier Angeli) – the two of them run a black-market operation together, but Louise has strong feelings for Guffy. He returns her affection, but he doesn’t have time to make love, because there is a war going on. He regrets leaving her behind, but there is nothing he can do about it – duty comes first. Hessler is cold and impotent towards Elena, while Guffy is affectionate towards Louise. It’s just interesting to see 1940s propaganda pop in a movie made in the 1960s. 

I also suspect that Louise a nod to the character of Janine Boitard in The Longest Day, a desperate attempt to add sex appeal. Boitard was portrayed by Irina Demick, who gave a sexy performance as the French resistance fighter. The main difference is that Boitard serves a function in The Longest Day – she is used by the resistance to distract German soldiers. In the opening scene, she uses her sexual charms to distract German soldiers while resistance fighters sneak through a check point.  She even helps derail a Nazi train later in the movie. Werle and Angeli are given little to do, and their roles could have easily been deleted from the finished film.




The movie is notorious for its historical inaccuracies and errors. It isn’t surprising that a movie would take liberties with history – in fact, it is often necessary – the filmmakers have to take a historical event and condense it down to a reasonable running, which means certain historical figures will be combined or omitted entirely.  The problem with Battle of the Bulge is that it rarely resembles the battle it’s supposed to be depicting. The real-life battle lasted over a month (from December 16, 1944 to January 25, 1945).  It was fought in the Ardennes Forest in heavy snowy conditions and dense fog (which made it impossible for the Allies to provide air support for their troops on the ground). In the movie, the battle takes place over the course of a few days – Hessler is given a fifty-hour window to complete his mission. The weather occasionally resembles the actual battle, especially in the first half of the movie – there is the occasionally snowy landscape and dense fog, but all attempts at accuracy are thrown out the window during the film’s climatic assault – instead of heavily forested area, the battle takes place on an arid landscape with no snow insight. The movie also suffers from bad continuity, the weather changes frequently throughout the movie and often in the same scene – in one shot it is sunny outside and then it is cloudy. There is a scene where an officer talks about how the dense fog will make it impossible for air support only to be followed by an exterior shot of a sunny sky without a cloud insight. When the plot needs it to be foggy outside, the filmmakers’ resort to filming in the studio where they can make their own fog.  

The movie version of The Battle. 


The real-life Battle of the Bulge. 

The movie occasionally touches on a few interesting aspects of the battle – in an act of desperation, the German High Command dropped English speaking paratroopers, many of whom lived the United States, behind American lines and had them impersonate American MPs to disrupt the Allies. In the movie, Lt. Schumacher and his crew are giving the assignment of confusing the Allies – he reroutes them by shifting the road signs, so they point in the wrong direction. This could have made for a potentially interesting subplot – these are men who are torn between to loyalties, their fatherland and the country that adopted them, but the movie depicts them as total baddies, and we are supposed to cheer when the devious Lt. Schumacher gets his comeuppance. 



The Battle of the Bulge is really bad, but there is some entertainment to be found if you check your brains at the door and ignored the whole “based on the true story” aspect. At least the tanks look cool.


Credits: 
Cast: Robert Shaw (Col. Martin Hessler), Henry Fonda (Lt. Col. Daniel Kiley), Dana Andrews (Col. Pritchard), Robert Ryan (Maj. Gen. Grey), Charles Bronson (Maj. Wolenski), Telly Savalas (Sgt. Guffy), Ty Hardin (Lt. Schumacher), James MacArthur (Lt. Weaver), Hans Christian Blech (Conrad), George Montgomery (Sgt. Duquesnce), Pier Angeli (Louise), Barbare Werle (Elena), Werner Peters (Gen. Kohler), Karl-Otto Alberty (Maj. Von Diepel), Steven Rowland (Courtland). Narrated by William Conrad.

Director: Ken Annakin
Writers: Philip Yordan, Milton Sperling, John Melson, Bernard Gordon (uncredited)
Running Time: 170 min.

Tuesday, April 15, 2025

Her Private Life (2019)/True to Love (Bora! Deborah) (2023)

 


Her Private Life 


Fandom is one of the most puzzling aspects of humankind – we dedicate so much time, money, and effort towards things (sports, movies, music) that, in the grand scheme of things, are unimportant. Sure, these things help enrich our existence, but the amount of dedication we give to these things is insane. I am not exempt myself from this madness – I will often irrationally scream at the television during a Packers game. Do I expect the Packers will hear my criticisms and make the proper adjustments? No, but it doesn’t stop me from making an ass of myself. Her Private Life is an interesting look at K-pop fandom and all its many quirks and unwritten rules. Well, at least the first half is – the second half is more of your standard K-drama romance (albeit an extremely well-done K-drama romance). 

The always likable Park Min-young stars as Sung Deok-mi, who works as a curator at an art gallery, but spends all of her free time fangirling over a K-pop idol, Sian. She is an extremely devoted fan: her apartment is cluttered with Sian memorabilia; she runs a blog, The Road to Sian, that is devoted entirely to her bias; and she follows him around, takes pictures of him, photoshops them, and then uploads them to her blog. A word that constantly gets thrown around in Her Private Life is “otaku” – it is a Japanese word that essentially means someone who is obsessed with a specific subject.  Deok-mi is a self-described “otaku” and when she is at work she cosplays as a normal person. She has kept her fandom a secret from her co-workers – out of fear that they might ostracize her if they find out. Plus, the former director, Uhm So-hye, absolutely detested K-pop idols and Deok-mi lied just so she could get the job. When Deok-mi goes out to take pictures of Sian, she wears a face mask and baseball cap to hide her identity.  I was initially going to write a snarky comment about how, at age 33, Deok-mi is a bit too old to be fangirling over boy a decade younger than her, but then I remembered walking into the houses of grown men whose homes were cluttered with Green Bay Packers memorabilia. 



When the old director, Uhm So-hye, is forced to resign after an investigation of embezzlement and slush funds – she avoids jail, but her husband ends up doing time. Even though she has resigned as art director, Uhm So-hye still runs things behind the scenes – she is the head director of TK Cultural Foundation, which funds the museum. The gallery needs a new art director and Deok-mi initially believes that she will be given the job because of her five years of devoted service. She is disappointed when she finds out that job has been given to Ryan Gold, a New York artist/critic whose opinion can either make or break an aspiring artist. Ryan Gold wants to turn around the gallery’s fortunes and to spark the public’s interest, he decides to do an exhibit that features the art collection of various celebrities, one of whom just happens to be Sian. This requires him to cancel an exhibition of a local artist that gallery had been working on. Deok-mi is appalled by Ryan’s callous treatment towards the artist and when he asks her to schedule an appointment with the old man, she spills the beans (even though Ryan told her to keep it a secret). The old man writes Ryan a letter to say that they should cancel exhibit and this makes Ryan furious – he confronts Deok-mi about this and when she admits she told the old man about his cancelled exhibition, he fires her. It turns out that Ryan was going to compensate the old artist by arranging for an exhibit of his work in New York.



Deok-mi gets a part-time job working at her friend’s, Lee Seon-joo, coffee house. It also turns out that Ryan is a regular there and always orders the same thing – steamed condensed milk. However, it turns out that Ryan took Deok-mi for granted and the gallery falls into complete chaos with her absence. Ryan approaches Deok-mi at the coffee house, admits his mistake, and apologizes. Despite his apology, she is still reluctant to return to work. After a few choice words, Ryan orders a drink and Deok-mi decides to play a prank on him by putting a touch of coffee in it. It turns out that Ryan is allergic to caffeine and is rushed to the hospital after he passes out. Deok-mi, naturally, feels terrible and when he wakes up, she apologizes and agrees to take back her old job. The more interesting aspect of Her Private Life is that Ryan and Deok-mi settle their differences early on – by the third episode that have a pretty good working relationship. Normally, it isn’t until the halfway point of the series that the two romantic leads finally bury the hatchet. 

With their squabbling out of the way, the series can move onto to the next subplot – Deok-mi being mistaken for Sian’s girlfriend and the shockwaves it creates among the fandom. Ryan has arranged to meet Sian and brings Deok-mi along – it turns out that Ryan and Sian are both fans of the same artist, Lee Sol, a mysterious artist who has only nine paintings to her name and nearly half of them have gone missing. Ryan owns two pieces, and Lee Sol owns three.  The nine paintings are all just part of one big painting – they are of bubbles floating in the air. In an interesting twist, the distant Ryan and the warm Sian actually hit it off. It also turns out that they live in the same apartment building and Sian constantly visits Ryan. You would expect an art snob like Ryan to look down on an idol like Sian, but he accepts Sian for who he is. There is never a sense that Ryan views Sian’s music as “inferior.” 



It is while they are at this meeting that a couple of things happen – while Deok-mi is using the bathroom, she begins to fangirl big time and can’t believe she is sitting in the shower that Sian uses, then she accidentally turns out the shower and gets all wet. Ryan notices that she is drenched and that her dress has become transparent, so he gives her his jacket to cover herself. It also turns out that Sian owns the exact same jacket. This becomes important because a superfan of Sian, a girl who goes by the name of Sindy, is taking pictures of the meeting and manages to capture Deok-mi’s reflection in the window. When Deok-mi exits the apartment building, still wearing Ryan’s jacket, Sindy snaps a few more pictures and uploads them – the fans mistakenly believe she is wearing Sian’s jacket and are outraged. Shit hits the fan when it is rumored that Deok-mi is Sian’s girlfriend. This is one of the unwritten rules of fans: it is okay for a fan to fantasize about being with their favorite idol, but they are forbidden to realize that fantasy. Dating an idol is off limits – the idea being that he/she belongs to all the fans and no fan should be given preferential treatment.  

The fans even turn violent and even assault Deok-mi outside of the art gallery.  Sian’s management tries to diffuse the situation by claiming that it is just a rumor, but they fail to acknowledge that the jacket belongs to Ryan (even after he insisted that they make that point clear). Because of their inability to clarify this one point, the fans still believe that Sian and Deok-mi are dating. Ryan is genuinely concerned about Deok-mi’s safety and even offers to pretend to be her boyfriend to help put these rumors to bed. Deok-mi, at first, rejects his offer but once she realizes that this rumor is not going away any time soon, she agrees to be his pretend girlfriend. They even have Deok-mi’s best friend, Lee Seon-joo, take “paparazzi” pictures of them on a date, and then Deok-mi uploads them to her blog.  It is also around this time that Ryan has figured that Deok-mi is really "The Road to Sian" but keeps it a secret from her. He becomes of a member of the blog by using the pseudonym "Latte." He even chats with Deok-mi a few times while using his alter-ego. 

There is also another reason why Ryan pretends to Deok-mi’s boyfriend, he is worried about her being “outed.” Ryan mistakenly believes that Deok-mi and Seon-joo are lesbian lovers. This is a based off a misunderstanding that happened before Deok-mi and Ryan were co-workers – Deok-mi and Seon-joo took a pilgrimage to a hotel that Sian had spent the night at. They desperately want to spend the night in the same hotel room that Sian stayed in, but the problem is that Ryan had already been assigned that room. Seon-joo approaches Ryan and asks if they can switch rooms– she tells him a vague story about be with the person she loves. Ryan initially scoffs at her suggestion but later sees Deok-mi and Seon-joo in the lounge, laughing with and hugging each other – he fails to see that they are watching a video of Sian on Deok-mi’s phone. Based off the visual evidence, he assumes the two of them are lesbian lovers. He also feels bad about being so dismissive towards Seon-joo and agrees to switch rooms with her.  He is worried that, with all the dirt the fans are digging up on Deok-mi, she will be outed as a lesbian and be further ostracized. This actually gives us a good look at Ryan’s character – he may come off as a cold prick, but he is actually a very considerate person.  At this point in the narrative, he barely knows Deok-mi and Seon-joo yet is willing to oblige both of them. While taking the “paparazzi” photos Seon-joo coos about how great Deok-mi and Ryan look together, this naturally confuses Ryan. When he later finds out that Seon-joo has a six-year-old son, he is even more confused. Whne the truth finally comes out (Deok-mi and Seun-joo are straight and just good friends) he feels like a total jackass.



Just when it seems the rumors have died down, and the two of them can drop the act, the gallery hires Kim Hyo-jin, the daughter of the former director, heiress to the TK Cultural Foundation, and, more importantly, she is Sindy, the superfan who started the rumors in the first place. She specifically took this job to keep an eye on Deok-mi and Ryan to see if their relationship is genuine. She spies on them and writes down all of her observations in a blog, so they have no choice but to keep up the act until Sindy is satisfied.  Of course, in true K-drama fashion, the two of them eventually fall in love with one another.

The supporting characters are likable enough – especially Nam Eun-gi, who is essentially Deok-mi’s adopted brother. Her parents took him after his mother abandoned and raised him as one of their own. He grew up with Deok-mi and now finds that he is beginning to have feelings for her (this is relatable – it would be incredibly easy to fall in love with Park Min-young). He is also a judo instructor (he won a silver medal in judo) and even teaches Seon-joo’s son, Geon-woo. When Deok-mi falls in love with Ryan, this makes Eun-gi jealous. I always like it when TV shows present both points of views- it easy to believe Eun-gi would fall for Deok-mi but it is also understandable as why she doesn’t reciprocate his feelings – he is like a brother to her. She later admits that she has taken him for granted and she does cherish him, but as a brother.  In my past blogs, I have always advised anyone suffering from unrequited love to run away and move with their lives, but in Eun-gi’s case this easier said than done – Deok-mi and him share a long history, were raised in the same household, and have a close relationship with her parents. Plus, he is also like an uncle to Geon-woo, who is the son of Deok-mi best friend, Seon-joo. However, at the end of day, Eun-gi just wants Deok-mi to be happy and when he finally realizes that Ryan is a perfect match for her, he is able to move on. It also turns out that Deok-mi and Eun-gi had met Ryan before (when he went by his Korean name, Heo Yoon-je) but will touch on that later.



Seon-joo has marital problems of her own – her husband, Kang Seung-min, is a TV producer and he is working on a documentary that paints K-pop fans in an unflattering light. However, he keeps that last part secret from Seon-joo and, in his lowest moment, he logs onto her laptop and uploads pictures from her computer (including the “paparazzi” shots she took of Deok-mi and Ryan) and includes them in his documentary. He reluctantly agrees to do this documentary – he was told by the higher ups that if he did this hit piece on K-pop fans he would be promoted to variety shows (something that Seon-joo desperately wants him to do). He swallows his pride and does the documentary and nearly ends his marriage in the process. When he was just working on the documentary, it is easy to rationalize his actions – he’s doing it for the promotion. But once he goes behind his wife’s back and upload photos from her laptop, it is nearly impossible to rationalize such actions. In fact, it can be argued that Seon-joo goes easy on him – she does give him a good scolding and the silent treatment, but that’s about it. He also tends to use their son to rationalize his behavior (“Think of Geon-woo”).


The character of Kim Hyo-jin/Sindy is also given a nice character arc. Like Deok-mi, she devotes all of her spare time obsessing of Sian - she also follows him around, takes pictures of him, and uploads them onto her blog. The difference between the two is that Sindy uses her blog to spread gossip about Sian and is the one responsible for the rumor that Deok-mi and Sian are dating. She uses her connections to get a job at the art gallery so that she can keep an eye on Ryan and Deok-mi - whenever she notices anything unusual about their relationship, she writes about it on a blog. She is a spoiled brat - her mother Uhm So-hye has given her everything she has always wanted. However, her mother also greatly disapproves of K-pop idols and when she learns that Sian is going to displaying his art collection at the gallery, she throws a huge hissy fit and demands that daughter quit. Hyo-jin refuses, and this leads to a falling out between the two of them - Hyo-jin moves out of her parent's house and So-hye takes away her car and credit card (she is hoping that Hyo-jin will come crawling back to her).  Deok-mi's mother takes in Hyo-jin (at Deok-mi's request) and while she is separated from her mother, and with the support of Deok-mi and Ryan, Hyo-jin is able to find her own. Ryan gives her the job of coming up with merchandise for the upcoming exhibit, and after throwing out a few rotten eggs, she comes up with an idea that the Ryan genuinely likes - she wants to hand out miniature art galleries to children (that also comes with miniature paintings they can hang on the walls).  She shifts her passion away from Sian and onto her job - initially she was greeted with apprehension by the staff but, by the show's end, she has become a member of the family. It is also implied that Eun-gi and her will become a couple. 



It also wouldn’t be a K-drama if you didn’t have Kim Mi-kyung as the lead female’s doddering mother. In The Heirs, Kim Mi-kyung gave a rather touching performance as the mute mother of the lead female protagonist (played expertly by Park Shin-hye). She perfectly embodies the working-class mother – she can be a bit standoffish at times but will also do anything to make her children happy, including sacrificing her own health. She doesn’t approve of her daughter being an “otaku” and really wishes she would find a husband. When she meets Ryan, she is delighted that her daughter has found such a handsome and successful man. Ryan also further wins her over with his polite manners – he accepts that ungodly amount of food she has made for him, even after Deok-mi gives her mother a scolding for making so much food. Her father is even impressed by his manners – Deok-mi’s father collects rock, polishes them, and puts them up for display. When he shows off his rock collection to Ryan, he takes a genuine interest in what Deok-mi’s father has to say. This also reveals another side to Ryan – he is willing to accept people’s eccentricities. He could have easily deemed Deok-mi’s father as “insane” but he patiently listens to what her father has to say, and, more importantly, doesn’t make any disparaging remarks about his hobby.



The most surprising aspect of Her Private Life is the intimate nature of Deok-mi/Ryan’s relationship. This might seem minor but, when compared to other K-dramas, the relationship between Deok-mi and Ryan is pretty steamy – after the two of them have finally confirmed their feelings for each, they share a long, passionate kiss. Your average K-drama is pretty chaste (when compared American dramas) and physical contact between the romantic leads is minimal – a K-drama’s idea of characters “consummating” the relationship is often a kiss on the lips. In Her Private Life, Deok-mi and Ryan not only share a passionate kiss, but they are constantly pawing at one another and even spend the night together. In contrast, I recently watched a Korean romantic comedy, Fortune Salon, and that movie ends with the two romantic leads embracing each other.

I also breathed a sigh of relief that after Deok-mi and Ryan became a couple, they manage to stay a couple – the writers resisted the temptation to contrive a way to break them up. There is no “noble sacrifice” nonsense nor a misunderstanding that threatens to tear them apart. It’s like the writers and director realized that Park Min-young and Kim Jae-wook have amazing chemistry and it would be really dumb to separate them. I already touched in a previous entry, how irritating I find the “noble sacrifice,” because it often requires the lead male character to behave in a frustrating and irrational manner. The female lead drops all sorts of hints that she loves the male lead and the only conclusion he can come to is, “She is better off without me!” UGH!!!!  Deok-mi and Ryan do have a misunderstanding but that is before they are officially a couple. Deok-mi hears from Ryan’s female friend, Choi Da-in, that he wants to put an end to their pretend romance. This is only half-true – he does want to stop pretending to be her boyfriend because he wants to be in a genuine romance with her. However, when Ryan is about to announce this to Deok-mi, he makes the mistake of letting her speak first, and she insists they call off the pretend romance. He misinterprets this as her wanting to cut off all ties to him and gives her the cold treatment. However, the writers don’t linger on this subplot for too long, and by the end of the following episode they both reveal their true feelings for each other and then share that long passionate kiss (that lasts all the way until the next episode).  There is also a nice bit of subtle writing when we are shown Deok-mi’s affections shifting from Sian to Ryan – Sian is doing a fan “meet and greet” at a mall and Deok-mi (or more accurately, the Road to Sian) has been selected to have her picture taken when Sian. While sitting in the chair, she notices that Ryan is watching the event from the second floor of the mall and begins to take photos (even though her bias is standing in front of them).  She doesn’t end up uploading photos from the event onto her blog, because she has spent the entire evening photoshopping a picture of Ryan.



The other nice touch is that Ryan accepts Deok-mi being a fan girl of Sian. He figures out early on that she is The Road to Sian and even joins the chat group on her website (under the name “Latte”).  Deok-mi is so worried that Ryan will have a negative opinion of her that when he first visits her apartment, she forces him to wear a blindfold and tells him that she doesn’t want him to see her apartment because it is a mess.  Granted, he finds her “fangirling” to be a bit silly but also realizes that she isn’t doing any harm. Plus, she eventually moves on from being an “otaku” and devotes her time and energy to more productive things. Again, as much as I’d like to thumb my nose at fan girls, I can’t do so without being a hypocrite. Deok-mi may go overboard with her fandom, but it’s nowhere near as bad sports fans who engage in fisticuffs with other sports fans (YOUR TEAM SUCKS!!!).

By avoiding the whole “Let’s separate them main characters because reasons,” this allows the writers to focus on more interesting subplots, like Deok-mi and Ryan coming to terms with the traumatic childhoods and moving on from them. They both have repressed memories from childhood – the earliest memory Ryan has is being abandoned at the orphanage his supposed mother at the age of seven. He occasionally has flashes of an earlier memory – his mother working on a painting. He concludes that his mother must be Lee Sol – the painter he bonded with Sian over – because the woman in his flashback is working on the same piece of Lee Sol artwork that he owns. It is also likely the reason he was attracted to Lee Sol’s paintings in the first place. It also revealed that Ryan had to quit painting because he suffers from Stendahl’s syndrome, and it was this painting that brought on this condition.

Deok-mi wasn’t abandoned at an orphanage, but she senses that there is something that she has forgotten something important. She has flashes of a childhood memory but doesn’t understand the context. It turns out that Ryan also has the same childhood memory – a group of children playing together in a playground. Eun-gi also has the memory, but his memory is much clearer and deliberately keeps it a secret from Deok-mi. When he learns Ryan’s Korean name, Heo Yoon-je, it immediately rings a bell. This when it Her Private Life becomes a bit contrived by wrapping up all its plot points in a convenient bow – turns out that Lee Sol is not only Ryan’s mother but Sian’s, as well. She no longer goes by the name Lee Sol, but Gong Eun-young. She didn’t abandon Ryan at the orphanage, in fact, she didn’t abandon him at all. She dropped him off at the playground to attend a business meeting and on the way back she was hit by a car, which put her in a coma. By the time she woke up, Ryan had been adopted and was living in the United States – she spent years trying to find her son, but to no avail. She eventually remarried and gave birth to Sian. In my review for Skate Into Love, I talked about how one of that show’s central themes was forgiveness, this also applies to Her Private Life.  When Ryan first comes face to face with the woman that he believed abandoned him, he is, naturally, very emotional and angry. However, after he has been giving time to cool down, he is willing to hear her side of the story. Once he learns everything his mother has been through, he accepts her apology and embraces her. 



It isn’t just his biological mother who he forgives – it turns out that the woman he abandoned him at the orphanage was none other than Deok-mi’s mother.  After his mother was in the car accident, and he was left alone at the playground, Deok-mi’s mother found him playing with her children and took him in for a month. Shortly after, Deok-mi and her younger brother, Deok-soo, were in a car accident, which claimed his life and resulted in Deok-mi suffering from amnesia – she completely forgot that she had a younger brother.  After this accident, Deok-mi’s family took a huge financial hit and they simply couldn’t afford to feed three mouths, so her mother dropped Ryan off at the orphanage. She later regretted her decision and went back for Ryan, but by then he had been adopted. Her mother has lived with this shame her entire life, but after Ryan finds out, he doesn’t hold any grudge against her and even tells her that he is grateful she took him in for a short period of time.

I always joked that the world in K-dramas is an incredibly small place, but that takes that idea to the next level. Not only is Ryan the half-brother of the same K-pop idol that Deok-mi fangirls over, but he also briefly lived with her family when he was seven. It often feels like a Korean version of Oliver Twist – with all the revelations that are made at the end. It’s not enough to undermine the entire series – the actors sell the hell out of the material – but it requires a huge suspension of disbelief from the audience. It is unbelievable that Deok-mi’s parents and Eun-gi would hide the memory of Deok-soo from her, out of fear that it might confuse her. Every year they visited his grave; they did it behind Deok-mi's back. Granted, it does give us a touching scene where Deok-mi mourns her late brother. Some of this can be written off a destiny – the fact that Deok-mi and Ryan met when they are little and later reunited as adults can be explained as fate playing a hand in their lives. The writer also goes a good job of setting up the reveal that Ryan and Sian are long lost half-brothers – on multiple occasions Sian senses that there is a bond between Ryan and him and even refers to Ryan as his “brother.” It’s when you take all these things together that it becomes a bit too much.

True to Love



True to Love has a few similarities as Her Private Life – two incredibly likable leads (Yoo In-na and Yoon Hyun-min), interesting supporting characters, and an underlying theme of moving on from the past.  It hits the usual K-drama plot beats – the two romantic leads initially dislike one another; the supporting characters have their own relationship problems they must overcome; and the male protagonist comes to the false conclusion that the heroine would be better off with him and decides the make the “noble sacrifice” (or “noble idiocy” as coined by K-drama blogger, Dramabeans) and tries to push the lead female away by putting up a cold front.  It is an entertaining show for the most, but there were times where I found myself shouting at the television by the overall stupidity of the male lead.

Yoo In-na stars as Yeon Bo-ra, a dating expert who has written three bestselling books and has her own popular radio show, where she gives advice to listeners to who write in. By every metric, she is very successful woman, but she is now entering into middle age (the show doesn’t give you specific, but Yoon In-na was forty years-old when the show was filmed) and is looking to take that next step in her life – marriage. She has dated Noh Joo-wan (the heir to a fried chicken franchise, Mom’s Chicken) for the last three years and he seems to be dropping hints that he is going to pop the question. At one point he asks Bo-ra out to dinner because he has an important announcement to make – Bo-ra is expecting a proposal instead he enthusiastically tells that her that Mom’s Chicken is going to be merging with a pizza chain, so their customers can now enjoy fried chicken and pizza together. Her world comes tumbling down when she catches Joo-wan cheating on her with a younger woman (who he introduces as “his cousin”).  



Her male counterpart is Lee Soo-hyuk, a publishing planner at the publishing house, Jinri. His best friend (and business partner) is Han Sang-jin, who is the representative of Jinri and is determined to sign Bo-ra to a contract. She is a hot commodity and Jinri wants a piece of the pie. Soo-hyuk dislikes Bo-ra because she presents herself as a “know-it-all” and believe she is a grifter. In the love department, Soo-hyuk isn’t faring any better than Bo-ra – his girlfriend of four years, Yu-ri, recently broke up him because of his inability to define their relationship. He never verbally confirmed his love for her, he just assumed she knew how he felt. She reveals that she has been seeing another man who is much more open with his feelings and then she verbally assaults him with insults. The irony is that Soo-hyuk actually bought an engagement ring and was going to propose to her, but he made the classic mistake of allowing her to speak first. Of course, he could have silenced her by taking out the ring and proposing to her and, given what we learn later on, she probably would have accepted. Soo-hyuk is a likable guy but he is not the brightest bulb at times.



 Soo-hyuk initially blames Bo-ra for the breakup – Yu-ri wrote into Bo-ra’s radio program and asked for advice on what to do about her noncommittal boyfriend. Bo-ra advised her to break up with him. Soo-hyuk was listening to Bo-ra’s radio show in the car and was able to put two and two together. When Yu-ri breaks up with Soo-hyuk, she paraphrases Bo-ra’s comments. However, he begins to sympathize with Bo-ra when he also witnesses Joo-wan cheating on her – this was entirely unintentional, the two of them shared a cab and they accidentally grab each other’s cellphone. Soo-hyuk was returning her cellphone, when he also spotted Joo-wan kissing another woman in his car.

Bo-ra’s lowest point occurs when she is the guest of honor at the Golden Night Party (which is being hosted by an influential lifestyle magazine, La Bella, where her friend Yoo-jeong works at) – she takes the stage completely shitfaced and proceeds to go an anti-man and anti-woman rant (she says women are only “after the diamond ring” and that all men are “bastards”), and then she slips on her heels and falls on her back, accidentally exposing her panties to the outraged audience. Soo-hyuk happens to be attending this event and goes onstage, covers Bo-ra up with his jacket, and then carries her off the stage. The public turns on Bo-ra and her social media accounts get flooded with negative comments. She was originally supposed to be featured on the cover of La Bella magazine, but they replaced her photo with one of the girl group, BLACKPINK (in your area). The guest column that she wrote for the magazine was pushed towards the back. However, once the public finds out the reason for her drunken rant (her boyfriend cheating on her) she begins to receive an outpour of sympathy.

This perfectly depicts the fickle nature of human nature – when Bo-ra is on the top of the world, everyone wants to work with her. After the scandal, everyone turns their back on her. When she, once again, receives support from the public (mostly single women), everyone wants to work with her again – Jinri publishing is not an exception to the rule. After her drunken rant, Sang-jin is no longer interested in signing a book deal with her. Soo-hyuk, to his credit, defends her.  When she, once again, becomes a hot commodity, Sang-jin is eager to sign her to a book deal. Lucky, for Sang-jin, Bo-ra is in desperate need of money (her younger sister was scammed out of three million won) and she is willing to take whatever offer Sang-jin is willing to give her (her only demand is that she was an advance on her payment). The subject of her book is how to deal with a breakup and how to win back your ex-boyfriend. Her plan is to make her ex-boyfriend jealous to the point that he will be begging her for forgiveness.  Soo-hyuk offers to be a willing pawn in her psychological war against Joo-wan – therefore it is only a matter of time before the two of them fall in love. 



True to Love also benefits from a rather strong supporting cast of characters, all of whom have their own relationship problems that need to be resolved.  Bo-ra’s best friend is Lee Yoo-jeong, who is a writer at La Bella magazine (and played by Girl’s Day member, Park So-jin) and is married to Yang Jin-woo, the owner of a café. Their relationship has devolved into one devoid of passion – they haven’t had sex in ages and barely see one another. Jin-woo, unbeknownst to Yoo-jeong, has his own man cave hidden in the basement of his café. Whenever he wants to blow off steam, he goes to his safe space and plays video games. This comes at the expense of his relationship with Yoo-jeong, who often spends many nights alone. As a couple they go through the motions – they make public appearances together and put on a happy face when they are hanging out with friends, but privately there is nothing there. They even put off having children, so they could establish themselves in their career path, but now that they have both found success, they only care about their own needs and lack the desire to have kids.  The writers don’t assign blame to either of them, it is just an unfortunate reality that has snuck up on them. 



Bo-ra’s younger sister gets romantically involved with the awkward but sweet natured Yang Jin-ho. The two of them first meet a night club – Jin-ho has just got out of the army and wants to meet women – when he first sees Do-mi on the dance floor, it is love at first sight. However, when it comes to women, he is inexperienced and just can’t work up the courage to approach Do-mi (she is his ideal woman, after all). However, it seems that fate has dealt him a favorable hand when Do-mi walks up to the bar and stands right next him. He realizes it is now or never and manages to break the ice with her. They have an awkward conversation that it is often interrupted by long pauses as Jin-ho figures out what he wants to say to her, but he does manage to get her phone number. He is convinced that Do-mi is his destiny – the fact that the two of them keep bumping into one another seems to prove his point. He even gets a part time job at Jin-woo’s café as a server (Jin-woo and him served in the same army unit) – a place where Do-mi and her sister regularly hang out at.  Do-mi is initially apprehensive towards Jin-ho, but once she realizes that he is a good-natured guy, who is looking for a long-term relationship, she can’t help but to fall for him charm.



Sang-jin’s ex-wife is Seo Su-jin, the editor of La Bella magazine (and Lee Yoo-jeong’s boss) and she still holds a grudge against her ex-husband. He never figured out why she asked for a divorce and on a few occasions tries to bury the hatchet with her, but she is just not interested. He is also oblivious that the youngest employee at his company, Bang Woo-ri, has a crush on him. Woo-ri is an agreeable girl, with an upbeat personality, and doesn’t have a single mean bone in her body. However, she also becomes a subject of gossip among her co-workers who are convinced she is having an affair with Sang-jin. They begin to grill her big time but Soo-hyuk comes to her defense and scolds them for giving her such a hard time over something that isn’t really their business. They do apologize to Woo-ri and, since she is not one to bear a grudge, she accepts their apology. Sang-jin is interested in Woo-ri but he is hesitant to get involved with her, because of their significant age difference (he is in his forties while she is in her early twenties) and the fact that he is a divorcee and still hasn’t gotten over his ex-wife.



His absent mindedness often makes things awkward for Woo-ri – she asks him if he wants to see a movie and he says yes, but he also then invites the rest of the staff to come with them, because he assumed that Woo-ri wanted to do a group building exercise. When he does figure out that Woo-ri likes him, he is noncommittal towards her – she even tells him that she wishes he would just reject her so she could get over him.  This is an important lesson for young people – never dick around with a person’s emotions. If you are not interested in them, tell them straight up (even if it hurts), because the sooner you tell them, the sooner they can get over it. And for the love of God, don’t do the “just friends” thing.  Sang-ji even overhears the staff bombarding Woo-ri with nonstop questions about their relationship but stays hidden in his office – Soo-hyuk is disgusted by his best friend’s cowardice in the moment. Sang-ji should be coming to Woo-ri’s defense, but it is Soo-hyuk comes to her aid.

It takes a long time for Bo-ra and Soo-hyuk to admit that they have feelings for each other. They two of them share a kiss at a karaoke bar, but then both agree that it was a “mistake.” They were both caught up in the emotions of the moment and weren’t thinking clearly.  As Bo-ra gets her confidence back, her ex-boyfriend, Joo-wan comes back into her life, and wants to get back together with her. Soo-hyuk is convinced that this is what Bo-ra wants and begins to distance himself from her (the “noble sacrifice” on full display) even though it is obvious to anyone with one good eye that Bo-ra is no longer interested in Joo-wan. She drops multiple hints throughout the series that she is no longer interested in Soo-hyuk, but Soo-hyuk is too dense to pick up on them.  She finally spells it out for him (“I LIKE YOU”) and he is still noncommittal (“I don’t know.”) In the last two episodes, Soo-hyuk behavior becomes increasingly more frustrating – I got so annoyed with his dumb decisions that I found myself yelling at the screen (“WHAT ARE YOU DOING, YOU MORON? SHE LIKES YOU! CONFESS YOUR FEELINGS!”).  Bo-ra tells him that she wants to hear him verbally confirm their relationship, he just has to utter three words (“I love you”) and she is his. But inexplicably, he still decides the “noble sacrifice” is the correct route – even though Bo-ra has no desire to get back together with Joo-wan. After over complicating things, he finally comes to his senses and confesses his love for Bo-ra.  The main flaw with True to Love is that it is two episodes too long – the plot could have easily been resolved in twelve episodes, but the writers were determined to drag it out to fourteen episodes, which explains that late introduction of the “noble sacrifice” subplot.

The main theme of True to Love is moving on from your past: Bo-ra moves on from her ex-boyfriend; Soo-hyuk moves on from his painful breakup from his ex-girlfriend; and Do-mi moves on from adolescence and embraces adulthood.  It is not easy moving on, and the characters all go through a “trial by fire” – but they come out of the mess as stronger individuals. Bo-ra’s ego takes a massive blow when she catches Joo-wan cheating on her – she is, after all, a self-professed dating expert, but couldn’t figure out that her boyfriend was two-timing her. This results in an identity crisis – who is the real Bo-ra? She used her relationship with Joo-wan to define herself – the two of them had seemingly healthy relationship and she was convinced that it was only a matter of time before she would be showing off an engagement ring to all of her friends and acquaintances. Bo-ra likes the idea of marriage, but she fails to realize that marriage takes a lot of work and isn’t always peachy keen. Her breakup with Joo-wan and Soo-hyuk’s noncommitment helps her refine herself – she would love to be in a relationship with Soo-hyuk but she also not going to lose sleep with if he rejects her. She doesn’t want to be with a man who can’t verbally confirm his feelings for her – she doesn’t want a guy who speaks in riddles and metaphors, she wants someone who can straight up tell her how he feels. This was also the same reason that Soo-hyuk lost Yu-ri. 

Soo-hyuk’s relationship with Yu-ri is a mirror image of Bo-ra’s and Joo-wan’s – Yu-ri breaks up with Soo-hyuk and gets engaged to another man, but just when it looks like Soo-hyuk has forgotten about her, she comes back into his life. Yu-ri even confesses to Bo-ra that one of the reasons she said yes to her fiancé was to hurt Soo-hyuk – she sends him an invite to her wedding and there is a part of her that hopes he makes a scene.  She doesn’t feel good about such vindictive thoughts, but she can’t help herself. She is human, after all. With her wedding around the corner, she begins to have second thoughts, calls up Soo-hyuk, and asks him to meet her at a restaurant. Her call also coincides while Bo-ra and Soo-hyuk are on their way to a wedding rehearsal of a mutual friend of Bo-ra and Joo-wan – Bo-ra knows that Joo-wan will be there and, with Soo-hyuk’s permission, wants to flaunt Soo-hyuk in front of Joo-wan to make him jealous. Bo-ra begs Soo-hyuk to ignore Yu-ri and stay with her, but he is compelled to go to his ex-girlfriend and tells Bo-ra that he will meet her at the rehearsal. Soo-hyuk doesn’t want to getback together with Yu-ri, he has gotten over her, but he does want to bring closure to their relationship. Yu-ri pours out all of her insecurities and doubts to Soo-hyuk, and even suggests they should start over, but he assures that she is engaged to the right guy. He owns up to his past mistakes and apologizes to Yu-ri for not defining their relationship. When Yu-ri’s worried fiancé shows up, Soo-hyuk tells him that he is a high school friend of Yu-ri and that he was the only friend who showed up to their get together. This meeting is not only good for Soo-hyuk, but Yu-ri, as well – it alleviates all the doubts she is having about her upcoming marriage. All bitterness has disappeared, and when Yu-ri marches down the wedding aisle, Soo-hyuk is genuinely happy for her.



Soo-hyuk also keeps his promise to Bo-ra and meets her at the wedding rehearsal – he immediately becomes the talk of the party. All of Bo-ra’s friends are curious about him, while Joo-wan jealously looks on. While Soo-hyuk has moved on from Yu-ri, Joo-wan begins to have second thoughts about breaking up with Bo-ra and asks her to give him a second chance. He tries to convince her that he is a different but manages to turn her off with his controlling behavior – Bo-ra and Soo-hyuk are having a business meeting at Jin-woo’s café and Joo-wan interrupts it by insisting that Bo-ra have dinner with him. Soo-hyuk, inexplicably, believes that this is what Bo-ra wants and ends their meeting. This is when Soo-hyuk’s behavior becomes increasingly frustrating – it is obvious to everyone, except Soo-hyuk, that Bo-ra wants to be with him and considers Joo-wan a total pain in the ass. But Soo-hyuk cannot take a hint to save his life and even after Bo-ra declares her feelings for him, he is still unsure. UGH!!!! He finally comes to his senses and proclaims his love for Bo-ra, but this honestly should have happened two episodes earlier.



The character who has the biggest arc is Bo-mi. She begins the series without a care in the world – she lives with her older sister and shirks all responsibilities. She is significantly younger than Bo-ra and like many girls (hell most people) in their early twenties – she is not ready to settle down and just wants to hang out at the night clubs with her friends. Her relationship with Bo-ra is combative at times – Bo-ra wants her younger sister to grow up, while Bo-mi views her older sister as a bore. When Bo-ra’s world falls apart, Bo-mi realizes that she can’t always depend on her older sister to bail her out and begins to make more sensible decisions in her life – she gets a waitressing job at Jin-woo’s café. She also falls in love with Jin-ho – the two of them complement each other rather well. They both accept each other’s eccentricities and, rather than trying to change each other, work on solutions that will benefit both of them. When Bo-mi gets pregnant, Jin-ho steps up the challenge and supports her every step of the way. She decides to have the baby and Jin-ho couldn’t be happier – his main goal in life was to find a woman to love and have children with. Bo-ra isn’t initially happy about their relationship, but Jin-ho eventually grows on her – once she realizes is a well-meaning individual.



True to Love is not one of the better K-dramas I have watched – but it is still a fairly entertaining show, thanks to in large part to its lively cast.  In fact, I’m rather impressed with Yoon Hyun-min (who plays Soo-hyuk) – this is the third drama I have seen in him in the last month, and he managed to give a distinct performance all three TV series – in Beating Again, he effectively plays one of the most detestable villains I have ever seen (he is a backstabber who wears a mask of empathy); in Tunnel, he plays a humorless homicide detective with a troubled past (his mother was murdered by a serial killer); and in True to Love, he plays a well-meaning but dense planner at a publishing house – a guy who is knowledgeable in many things except love. It’s worth watching for his performance alone (though, he is ably assisted by Yoo In-na, who is her usual charming self).  


Her Private Life
Cast: Park Min-young (Sung Deok-mi), Kim Jae-wook (Ryan Gold/ Heo Yoon-je), Ahn Bo-hyun (Nam Eun-gi), Park Jin-joo (Lee Seon-joo), Jung Jae-won (Cha Si-an/Sian), Kim Bo-ra (Kim Hyo-jin/Sindy), Kim Mi-kyung (Go Young-sook), Maeng Sang-hoon (Sung Geun-ho), Kim Sun-young (Uhm So-hye), Park Myung-shin (Nam Se-yeon), Hong Seo-young (Choi Da-in), Lee Il-hwa (Gong Eun-young/Lee Sol), Im Ji-kyu (Kang Seung-min), Jung Si-yul (Kang Geon-woo), Yoo Yong-min (Joo-hyuk), Kim Chang-hoi (Secretary Kim).

Director: Hong Jang-chan
Writer: Kim Hye-young
16 episodes ~ 60 minutes

True to Love (Bora! Deborah)
Cast: Yoo In-na (Yeon Bo-ra), Yoon Hyun-min (Lee Soo-hyuk), Joo Sang-wook (Han Sang-jin), Hwang Chan-sung (Noh Joo-wan), Park  So-jin (Lee Yoo-jeong), Kim Ye-ji (Yeon Bo-mi), Koo Jun-hoe (Yang Jin-ho), Lee Sang-woon (Yang Jin-woo), Song Min-ji (Seo Su-jin), Hong Hwa-yeon (Bang Woo-ri), Kim Ji-an (Lim Yu-ri), Park  Ri-won (Da-mi).

Directors: Lee Tae-gon, Seo Min-jeong.
Writer: Ah Kyung
14 episodes ~ 60 minutes. 

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